You wouldn’t be a caring or active parent-to-be if you didn’t worry. Worry is something that will follow you throughout your entire time in motherhood. It’s just part of the deal. When you have someone else on this planet who your life orbits around, you care for them on a deeper level than speech could ever express. This naturally gives way to a low-level of worry that will often be with you until your final days on this Earth. It’s both the curse and blessing of motherhood, but the good thing is that it’s not disabling. If it is, it might be worth speaking to a mental health professional. Just know that it is okay parenting fears are normal and there are steps you can take and people to talk to no matter the situation.
However, natural worries are much different than deep fears. Of course, fear can be a good thing. It can help us notice the risks and plan for them, or prevent us from making silly decisions. For example, it’s a low level of fear that ensures your child is strapped into their car seat well and the seat itself is secure before you turn on the engine and begin driving. We know the alternative is simply not acceptable.
However, some fears can be settled. We hope to help you do that, with careful analysis. Let us begin:
You’ll Learn At The Time
We can often fear that we’ll be a dismissive parent, or that we’ll let tiredness get the best of us, or that we will forget simple tasks. Remember, when you are dealing with something sensitive and stressful now, you likely stand up to the plate. You care, and that’s why you’re fretting right now in the first place. Additionally, if you were as incompetent as you think you are right now, you wouldn’t even dream of having the child in the first place, or start planning this as a practical possibility.
When you give yourself some credit and realize that you have a golden track record of standing up where it matters, you can trust yourself a little bit. Of course, parenthood seems worrying now, because it is alien to you. But when it is on your doorstep, you will learn as many others have learned.
There Are Many Alternatives
It’s important to note that if you struggle to conceive or are worried about starting a family through conventional means, there are many different alternatives and solutions available to you. Advanced fertility clinics can truly set the stage for the healthiest birth, while adoption and other truly needed options are always available. Odds are your care for this shows you are the right person to apply in the first place. Do not worry, the family you seek can be yours.
You Won’t Be Perfect
No parent is perfect and never has been. Parents who raise children in poor or rich environments have just as much chance as making mistakes. It’s the ability to notice a mistake and to try and solve it or act upon it that makes the difference here. You won’t be perfect, ever. Thankfully, this gives you the chance to realize this and be great instead, while staying self-aware at all times.
With this advice, we hope you can feel a little more settled. Remember, the worry you feel is often a good sign, a sign of great care.