How I Felt About 13 Reasons Why As A Victim Of Sexual Assault

13 Reasons Why

13 Reason Why was hard to watch. Everyone is saying so and so many people are upset about it. But here is the thing, it needs to be hard to watch, you want to know why? Because those types of feelings and situations are hard to live through, for those lucky enough to actually live through them.

Do we need to be reminded of the stats??

Suicide is the second, did you hear me?, second leading cause of death in youth and young adults 10-24. More teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza, and chronic lung disease, COMBINED.

Then you have 60% of sexual assaults and abuse victims are under the age of 16. This is myself included – I have been a victim of a sexual assault much like our main characters friend encountered at that party. I was only 12 – at a cool kid party and clearly over my head.

Isn’t that terrifying?

This is why this show needs to be hard to watch – it shows a brutal reality that a lot of parents out there really need to understand IS happening. Even if you have a good kid, a good kid does stupid things too and gets into sticky situations as well and we need to acknowledge that.

Which is one of the main reasons why I think this is a great way for all of us to educate ourselves, prepare ourselves and use it as a conversation piece when the time comes.

For topics that are this deep having a show like 13 Reasons Why can really open up that otherwise preachy sounding and uncomfortable topic. You are essentially meeting them on their own level sharing your views through your opinions on what happened in the show. You can learn a lot about what is going on with your teen or assessing what your teenager already knows or deals with opening up a conversation more about the show than asking them directly about their own lives. Let’s face it you didn’t want to talk to your parents as a teenager either – we need to make it an easy conversation for it to be impactful at all.

13 Reasons Why

This is why I want to congratulate Netflix for creating a show that is hard to watch and hard to swallow. We as parents needed it, it might have triggered me due to past trauma but it was something that should be watched. It reminded me that these days kids are even more vulnerable and reminded me just how in over my head you can get at that age.

It is a scary world we live in, let’s be open and talk to one another about it!

What were you’re thoughts on 13 Reasons Why?

stats source: http://www.sexassault.ca/statistics.htm

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4 Comments

  1. Great post!! I agree this is an important show!! I don’t think it glamorized suicide or sexual assault but showed how easy it can happened. The reason so many people are outraged is because it hits home on a unconscious level; something they experienced or witnessed. Great job Netflix!!

  2. Thank you for writing this. I agree that this is an important show sparking conversations that need to be had not just about suicide but about consent and assault. I’m sorry you are a victim of assault but I’m happy you are a survivor. Keep sharing your story, others are listening.

    • thanks so much it is something that I talk about openly nowadays as it really does help heal. It was such a scary time and I sadly was one of many girls in my high school circle this happened too. Not to mention all the other times that were less terrifying that all women deal with at least once in their lives. Life is scary and we need to stop sugar coating it and our kids I think.

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